Love and Relationships
Friendship
For many of us our friendships with our girlfriends are what help us through some of the toughest times of our life. We share everything – from Botox to Brazilians with our girlfriends. Unlike the opposite sex, we can have just as much fun chatting over a cappuccino in our own living room as we can quaffing cocktails and champagne at the Ritz! We simply need each other’s company to have fun and enjoy ourselves.
Latest Articles
Countermoves
Archive So, are you are in trying circumstances? Do you want to establish new relations or new boundaries in an important relationship? Are you trying hard to establish these boundaries, and yielding no results? Perhaps the other party is not open to negotiation?
Questions all men hate and why
Archive Everything is going along smoothly, and then all of a sudden you ask your man the QUESTION! And suddenly it seems that he has hit a brick wall and unable to respond with a bewildered look on his face.
Meeting the family
Archive Since I was a little girl, I knew my family was different. I know all families are different, but in my mind, mine stuck out amongst my friends' families. I often wondered why. What made them different? Were they really that different?
Cheeky Map to Social Etiquette mine field
Archive I am not a hugger. I don’t like hugging people I barely know. And I really don’t like the awkwardness an impending hug brings with it.
Honesty with Compassion
Archive HONESTY: Sometimes saying what needs to be said is hard and hurtful, but we owe it to those we love to say what needs to be said. What do you need to communicate to heal the current situation?
Tell it to me straight!
Archive Is honesty a value and a behavior we desire to live? The lessons around what people understand by, attribute to and mean by the word 'honesty' are endless.
Maintaining a Friendship
Archive We meet so many people every day but there are only a few of them that we actually become friends with. We also make and break friendships from time to time, but most of us have a friend or two or three that have been in our lives for years.
The Art of being a Good Listener
Archive Whether it’s a parent, your husband, wife or partner, a teacher perhaps, or even your best friend, it’s good to know that we have someone whom we can talk to, and someone that is willing to really listen.
Do you express your gratitude
Archive Gratitude is a highly spiritual concept and by using it pro-actively it will truly transform your life.
Why Saying Sorry is Not Enough
Archive One of the greatest frustrations when we have been let down by someone is that when they say sorry, they often do not know how much it has inconvenienced us. So there is an expectation of the automatic reply to a “sorry” which is, “that’s okay”.
A story of friendship
Archive Like most of you, we at SPICE4LIFE often receive emails from friends of sweet little stories about what a special friend you are, which you need to forward to 5 friends. I usually smile and then delete them, but this one stuck with me for some reason.
Lies
Archive The average person tells about 50 lies daily. The first reaction is denial, but then I start thinking of the amount of times I tell people that I am well when they enquire as to how I’m doing.
Friends in need
Archive There’s a lot you can do to help a friend through hard times. There’s also a lot you can do to make things worse. Here’s how to transform good intentions into real support.
Estosterone
Archive I did not forget the “t” in the title because the first part of the male hormone has been phonetically removed. This is my new PC term for the metrosexual phenomenon that is making males effeminate, females masculine and humans androgenous.
She
Archive Golden sun rises with her smile, constant as layer of blue sky high, nurturing as Kalahari desert rains, unmoving as Kilimanjaro plains...
30 is really Shweet
Archive Last year when I dreaded turning big 30yrs! Suddenly you realise that you’re no longer a ‘young adult’, you can’t enter Miss SA (don’t judge me every girl is allowed to dream), and miniskirts are no longer my best fashion buy.
Five lessons to make you think about the way we treat people
Archive 1 - First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one:
Wisdom in her words
Archive In April, Maya Angelou was interviewed by Oprah on her 70+ birthday. Oprah asked her what she thought of growing older. And, there on television, she said it was 'exciting.' Regarding body changes, she said there were many, occurring every day...like her breasts. They seem to be in a race to see which will reach her waist, first.
Top 10 things we were told as kids
Archive I remember when I was small (ok, I am not very tall now), but as a child, my friends as well as older people would tell me things to scare the living crap out of me all so that I would stop doing it. Things like, ‘If you pull your face like that/cross your eyes, it is going to stay that way’. I have never heard of that happening to anyone, but as a child I believed it whole heartedly and stopped.
Wild Women
Spice4Life Archive I have come to the conclusion that I am exceedingly glad that I am not an elephant.
Top 10 ways to beat the rainy day blues
Spice4Life Archive Karen Carpenter sang in her 1971 song, ‘Rainy days and Mondays always get me down’. Now there is nothing we can do about Mondays because they are always going to be there, but there are a few things we can do about the rainy days.
Days of Stone
Spice4Life Archive John Denver famously sang, “Some days are diamonds, some days are stones”,
